Stop Talking So Much
I recently got some good advice. Someone told me that it is not a good idea to say what you are going to do. Stop talking so much. What is the point in saying, “I’m going to write a book” or “I’m going to do a music tour”. Stop talking so much about what you are going to do. When you say that you are going to do something it creates a FALSE SENSE of ACCOMPLISHMENT. Sending out an e-blast or telling everyone something that you are going to do makes you feel that you have accomplished something when in actuality, you have accomplished nothing.
It would be better, to write the book first, book the music tour first, accomplish the tasks first, and then tell people. Promote, promote, promote. People don’t become admired or famous or respected because of what they say they are going to do, but for what they actually accomplish.
Please tell me your thoughts on this.
Pete Denton 9:30 am on June 5, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
Definitely better to talk about what you’re doing rather than what you’re going to do. So long as you ACTUALLY do it though it’s ok.
Joan Y. Edwards 11:22 am on June 4, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
Dear Angela,
Saying, “I’m going to,” is the first step in goal setting. You have to go beyond that to Step 2. State the goal in the present tense. I weigh so many pounds. My book “Title” is published.” Step 3 and beyond. State steps necessary to get to your goal. When we say, “I’m going to” or “I want to,” it’s like a sign in a bar that says, “Free Beer Tomorrow.” It never gets here. The word “tomorrow” never gets here. It’s all in the words we use in our minds and the words that come out of our mouths.
Good luck with all your writing!
Never Give Up!
Joan Y. Edwards
EllaDee 1:01 am on June 3, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
It’s an interesting thing, and depends how it happens. A few times the words “I’m going to…” have come out of my mouth and I’ve thought really, where did that comes from? But, it’s what happened. Sometimes your guiding spirit is way ahead of you & chips into your talk. Othert imes, yes, it’s best to shut up if only to not give any naysayers the opportunity to rain on your parade. Best practice, walk the walk
Angela Shella 5:26 pm on June 4, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
Ahh! What a relief. Simple advice with great impact. “Walk the walk”
Candy S 9:44 pm on June 2, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
Call those things that be not, as though they were…. If you are the one doing the talking, you must speak in faith and not listen to the naysayers… Now if talking is preventing you from doing, then that’s another story!
Angela Shella 5:24 pm on June 4, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
Good point. Speaking in faith helps you feel very motivated. Thanks for that. I struggled with this, when he said, “stop talking so much”. I guess, it makes me feel good to talk about what I want to do. It just doesn’t actually make it happen. It almost slows me down because I get that brief sense of inspiration and emotion obtained from talking about it. So I relish in the emotion instead of ACT. This is sort of what Waldo “Wally” Tomosky was saying in his comment below.
Candy S 10:57 pm on June 4, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
Yes, he definitely said it well. You also can’t tell everyone about your dreams & aspirations. You want to share with those that will support and help to motivate you.
Waldo "Wally" Tomosky 5:01 pm on June 1, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
If you REALLY, REALLY, REALLY, HONESTLY, have a plan and the determination and the perserverance to do what you say you are going to do (And I really did mean HAVE A VIABLE PLAN) then you should tell people what you are going to do. That way you have comitted to the world your goals and you will, and should be, embarrased if you do not follow through. I hope that was not mean. I just think it is OK to tell a few people just so you will not abandon your own plans. GOOD LUCK. Wally
Angela Shella 5:20 pm on June 4, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
I agree that this works for some. I haven’t been able to make it work for me. I just end up being embarrassed and no one helping. Next thing I know, years pass by and still it’s not done. However, I think you make a good point of reminder. It’s all about the plan. If there is no viable plan, nothing really happens.
Thanks for this.
seakist 12:38 pm on June 1, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
Okay, here’s my two cents … I WISH more people would talk about their creative projects! I feel the world is too full of gossip and idle chit chat. I’d much rather here something positive, even if it falls through, it’s inspiring to hear excitement coming from someone’s mouth rather than some sort of animosity or mere chatter due to someone’s insecurity or nerves.
P.S. — you look super hot in that photo, if you don’t mind me saying!
Angela Shella 5:16 pm on June 4, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
Thanks for the compliment. I hate gossip too.
fowocare 11:47 am on June 1, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
Impressive and concise. Yes more action and less of talking. However, we cannot neglect the need to talk..share our dreams and our plans. It gives room for more inspiration, accountability too – when you know certain people are holding onto your words and plans. Also, you get more ideas as you speak with other people. The most important for me is as trivial as your “talk” might be, it could end up as someone’s inspiration to make an action.
Thanks.
Angela Shella 5:14 pm on June 4, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
So true. It definitely could lead to accountability. Good point.
Adam Isler 11:00 am on June 1, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
The difference between talking and doing is the difference between a dilettante and an artist. I’ve talked too much and not done enough. Amen.
Angela Shella 5:13 pm on June 4, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
I wonder if we, artists, are just too hard on ourselves. They say that artists are rarely 100% pleased at what they have done. You have done alot.
Jen Johnson 10:20 am on June 1, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
I agree. A lot of people talk and talk, but they’re not actually accomplishing anything (including me). Great post, we need to just DO and talk later. Thanks for the inspiration!
Angela Shella 10:33 am on June 1, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
Thanks for reading. I hope now I’ll have something to talk about.
May Dayao 10:19 am on June 1, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
Agreed. Actions do speak louder than words.
Angela Shella 10:32 am on June 1, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
Yes. Thank you. Actions really do speak louder than words.
SKW 10:19 am on June 1, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
As odd as this sounds – I thinking talking to yourself is best. I talk to myself all the time. Not as a sort of edification but as a reminder – I have responsibilities to accomplish what my heart desires; I need to verbalize those, my ears need to hear – so when I hit a rough spot my voice, my dreams don’t seem foreign to me
Angela Shella 10:31 am on June 1, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
Yes. Most definitely. In this post, however, I was referring to telling everyone else what you are going to do. You know, bragging about what you are going to do. But, yes, I’m just like you. I have to talk to myself and verbalize my dreams. It helps to keep me focused.
rheath40 10:18 am on June 1, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
Amen my sweet. It’s what I said to myself a year ago with my weight loss journey. It’s time to put up or shut up. So I did both. I’ve lost 165 lbs. Life is fabulous for the most part. I’ve changed it for the better. It feels so good to feel accomplished. To have grown. Succeeded.
Angela Shella 5:11 pm on June 4, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
That is spectacular. Maybe you can help me too.