Speak from Your Heart

So many people are afraid to tell what they really feel. The good and the bad. They don’t want to be vulnerable. Wouldn’t it be great if when you were attracted to someone, you tell them. When you appreciate what someone has done, tell them. When you think someone has on a pretty dress, tell them. Women can compliment other women, it’s ok. It’s much better than being jealous. Or what if you simply want to say no to someone. It’s ok to say no, instead of living a lie. Speak from your heart and let the truth come out. If you want something from someone, tell them clearly what you want. You might need their help, you may need a favor. Don’t be ashamed to ask. It may be a bit blunt, and perhaps uncomfortable, but atleast you are living in truth. Speak from your heart, tell people what you want, tell them what you need, and tell them how much you appreciate them. Also, if they have upset you in any way, tell them that too. No hold back. There’s nothing more useless than being mad at someone and they have no idea. Don’t be fake or they will misunderstand you. Speak from your heart. It knows the truth.

bruceavery 2:37 pm on July 11, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
Angela, I love that dress on you, and . . . (smile) your pose is so open, honest, and inviting (reinforces your blog well). . . . seriously, I’m a very visual person, and your share you well.
Honesty, for me, goes beyond “saying what I think” or “factual bluntness.” It’s more about the vulnerability of allowing you to see the real me. No cover-ups that drip with unhealthy obsessions of “needing” people to like or accept me, just the simple, but powerful gift of appreciation, admiration, and affirmation – a melody of friendship, or the possibility thereof.
Very though provoking thoughts you shared. Many men really appreciate “knowing” instead of “guessing” what someone thinks, wants, and likes. I do. Have a fabulous day! Thanks for a great blog (loved your Monday blues).
Angela Shella 12:55 pm on July 12, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
Thanks for the comment. I love the dress too, but I need to lose weight in order for it to fit the way I want. So hence, I cropped the photo. Anyhow, I like the way you phrase this: “gift of appreciation, admiration, and affirmation.” I guess you have to be a bit selfless to give someone such a powerful gift. This type of person is rare.
e1aine 5:40 pm on June 27, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
Perhaps following this advice would make us less vulnerable in the end. Takes bravery but maybe we’d get what we want too. Great idea!
Angela Shella 1:42 pm on June 29, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
Thanks for your comment. I haven’t followed this. It’s new to me. I often get stuck doing things I don’t want to do because I don’t want to say no. Or not telling someone how much I like them and care for them, only to find out that they have left my life either through death or just circumstance.
e1aine 6:27 pm on June 29, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
You are not alone in that.
wheniwasalad 11:20 am on June 27, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
I don’t think its speak out truthfully what puts people off but the response they are likely to receive in these PC times of our. Friendly banter seems to be dying out because its sexist, ageist, racist you name it so why risk the wrath?
Mark 8:57 pm on June 24, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
It sounds easy on paper…
Angela Shella 1:01 pm on June 25, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
Yes it does sound easy on paper. Easier to say than to do.
AmazinglyBrash 1:00 pm on June 24, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
I am the meaning of “honest”…. People like to be lied to because it paints a better picture. Wouldn’t it be nice to wake up in a world that will practice while they preach? Emotions cloud what honesty is….
Angela Shella 8:50 pm on June 24, 2012 Permalink | Log in to Reply
Honesty is a good policy. It’s not easy because people like to believe what they like to believe. Thanks for your comment.