Choose moments when you know that all is well with your soul. Decide that now, you will be grateful for what you have and those that have helped you. Gratitude is about being ok with what is around you. It’s easier said than done. It’s so easy to complain about things. So easy to play the victim. Instead, choose to stand as a joyful person that says thank you for every lesson and every blessing.
Are you spoiled? Do you think everything has to go your way? When you operate with a growth mindset you believe revelation of your flaws, trouble and struggle is just important feedback in the life-learning process.
However, when you operate from a fixed mindset, you complain about the things that don’t go your way, hide your flaws so people won’t judge you, and label your self a failure. Stop being spoiled. Things are not always going to be easy. Learn that success comes from hardwork and that trouble and failure is just apart of what needs to happen in order for you to grow. In a growth mindset, your mistakes and flaws are simply a check list or TO-DO list of things to improve.
In a fixed mindset, you always stay in your lane. You’ve got to stick with what you know in order to keep up your confidence. In a growth mindset, you tend to keep up your selfworth-confidence by always striving and pushing into the unfamiliar. You move into the uncomfortable to make sure you’re growing and always life-learning.
When operating under a fixed mindset, you tend to pray and look inside yourself to find something called “your true passion and purpose”, as if this is a static, concrete and hidden inherent thing.
In a growth mindset, you create yourself, imagine yourself, and you commit to mastering valuable skills regardless of your feelings and mood. You simply believe that your passion and purpose come from creating your self, practicing great work, which comes from constantly doing, expertise and having life-experiences.
When operating with a fixed mindset, failures define you. They stop you. They become a part of you. In a growth mindset, failures are simply temporary setbacks. Just part of the normal course of life.
Your relationships are also embedded in your mindset. If you have a fixed mindset, you believe that right from the get-go you need to be romantically compatible with someone, and that the two of you should share the same life-value-views, and everything should just come naturally.
However in a growth mindset, you believe a super-strong lasting and caring relationship comes from lots of effort and hard work, and working through inevitable differences, as well as dealing with flaws of the other person, as well as working on romance.
In a fixed mindset, it’s all about the end result and outcome. If you fail, you think you have wasted your time and all effort was just a frustrating waste of effort and energy. In a growth mindset, it’s all about the life-journey and the growth-process, so the outcome is not as important as the golden experiences and priceless lessons learned. The failure is irrelevant. It hardly matters because it’s not about the outcome, but about all the powerful things that you’ve experienced in your life-journey. Failure just sets you up for being better the next time around.
By the way the mindset itself is not even fixed. You can be open to change your mindset anytime just by thinking another philosophy.